Are you ONLY willing to stay at the
'ego-indulgent-back-slapping' surface... that feels good and SAFE...
OR are you willing to bump into the "less-than-engaging", "awkward" insecurities living just a little lower below the surface that everyone seems to notice except ourselves?
What is the benefit of going down your rabbit hole?
Most would want to be certain about that one...
because lets face it... finding out you feel uncomfortable with emotional intimacy that is NOW affecting the way you come across in a way that can leave you LESS than effective.. in the presence of others... at work... is hardly encouraging...
So.. makes perfect sense that you would want to have a good reason for wanting to go there... am I right?
Here are some insecurities people bumped into when exploring their rabbit holes
- "...I struggle with low self esteem presenting the value of my work and how others will see me all the time.."
- "...I feel uncomfortable with how I look when its my turn to speak in project meetings.."
- "...I feel worthless and out of place in social-get-together at work.."
What are the consequences (esteem-wise) if let the following (more deeper bumps) go endlessly un-addressed?
- If you are an "emotionally closed" male with a deep insecurity of the woman at work getting close enough to "hurt" him?Know what I'm saying? If let grow unattended how would you tell it couldn't:
- If you are the "silent" woman in the corner of the office amongst a building full of bubbly, jolly workers who appear never to have a bad day?
- If you are extremely good at what you do but always feel insecure, not good enough, not smart enough, out of place always having to live their adapted self and not who they really are inside?
- nibble at.. corrode... your interview ability?How much will the following do for your next contract negotiation, your next rate review, or your next interview
- eat at your uncertainty and make more mistakes?
- make your work experience something to 'survive' and a much more lonely past time than it should?
- leave you unprotected, exposed, expecting humiliation, at every turn, at almost any moment?
- If you are insecure around new people because you think you'll say something stupid deciding the 'safest' action is to say nothing in the interview?Does it get to a point where you wonder how could it ever get better?
- If you are self-conscious and unable to present your considerable proven value?
- If you are offered a rare opportunity that you can easily do but hold back in the corner because you are too frightened you will make a mistake?
So how far down the rabbit hole are you willing to go?
What exciting benefit do you intend hauling back out?
The main reason anyone would entertain going there is to be able do something about it.
How do YOU know when its time to get a NEW Identity for your IT Contracting practice?
